Speech is silver, Silence is golden
– Arabic proverb.
In my travels, I’ve been exposed to a variety of different coaching stances, styles and schools of thought. Some resonate with me and some don’t. I’m especially partial to the “Silence is golden” school of thought.
As a result, one of my favourite coaching questions is, “What else?”
Those two simple words enable me to…
- Let go of agenda
- Let go of prescription
- Let go of problem-seeking solutions
- Let go of talking
- Let go of my ego
“What else?” is a portal to another’s reality, seeing the world through their eyes. Hearing their words verbatim. Experiencing what they feel. Connecting us in a shared moment.
Their answers to that simple query enables us to move…
- From ivory tower assumptions to specificity and clarity
- From a bold leap to a small step
- From expert opinion to co-created hypotheses
A very wise person once told me,
“People come with solutions”
The coach’s challenge is to help people realize it.
Might asking “What else?” be a key to unlock those solutions?